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Scott Martin
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iconnumber posted 07-11-2014 08:27 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Scott Martin     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
More users of search engines find their way to SMP and the Silver Salon Forums using the search terms How to Set A Table.

The link on the SMP home page, How to Set A Table gets nearly as much traffic as the forums.

If members want to entice more new members to participate perhaps exploring the topic How to Set A Table would be good.

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Polly

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iconnumber posted 07-12-2014 10:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Polly     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I've always found old etiquette books fascinating. They usually include long, moralistic sections on how to set a table. Apparently in previous centuries, knowing how to set a table according to etiquette-book rules was an important skill for those trying to enter a higher social class. Or maybe to put it another way: controlling the rules of table setting was an important way to keep the ambitious rabble out of your social class.

Table manners are different now, but I expect they still function in a similar way.

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Polly

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iconnumber posted 07-12-2014 10:23 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Polly     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
By the way, Scott, there's a typo in that link:

whether you are dinning:
at a restaurant,
in a private home,
at a banquet,
historical settings…

Given the noise levels at many restaurants these days, you probably ARE dinning at a restaurant. A banquet too. However, in private homes and historical settings you're more likely to be dining.

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Scott Martin
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iconnumber posted 07-12-2014 10:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Scott Martin     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I "din" fixed it. Thanks

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dragonflywink

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iconnumber posted 07-13-2014 05:51 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for dragonflywink     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My brothers and I grew up in a home with the table set properly for meals, Mom was also a skilled hostess, and formal dinners were a fairly frequent occasion. Years later, I was a free-lance bartender for several caterers, country clubs, etc., and after setting up my bar, often helped the wait staff prep, was truly surprised at how many newbies had virtually no knowledge of even basic table settings. Suspect the majority of those clicking on 'How to Set a Table' really just have no idea and are looking for that basic guideline. Am still complimented on my manners, though I feel very much a slacker these days - grateful to Mom for the 'training'...

~Cheryl

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I will not say how long ago it was, but at school we had a required weekly class called "social customs" for the girls where the headmaster's wife taught us all of that sort of stuff and we would have teas for the mothers to come to where we displayed our skills and "social grace" LOL. Most of us also had to attend weekly cotillion classes where we learned "proper" dances and how to behave at social functions and such. Of course my grandma & great grandma knew all of the dining room etiquette or how to set a table and how to properly eat food and made sure I did too. Back then we always ate at the table and the men would have jackets and ties and the maid served & the restaurants all had formal service with finger bowls and all. Those days are gone for most, but as long as all the silver, china and crystal is still around, someone ought to still know how to use it and thank heavens for those of us who collect it and do so. I do not use "the good stuff" every day, but when I have done the extra work to prepare a special meal, I certainly do use it as I feel a meal should also be an experience. Honestly if you just serve ordinary everyday food eating it with "the good stuff" and good manners makes it taste better, doesn't it? I hope it does not make me sound snobbish to say so, but I certainly do notice when someone has poor table manners. I think nowadays a lot of kids are taught to eat, but nothing more elaborate than that. Most of the restaurants that still do a more formal service are ones that most folks can't afford to go to. Times have changed I guess.

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Taking the time to properly set a table and then to slow down to use the utensils and employing etiquette is a great way to diet. wink

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